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By Jeanette Lee
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April: Captain Heartbreak
April 2009
Q. I'm the captain of a league team, and I was dating a teammate. She broke up with me a few months ago, and is now dating another guy on the team. What's worse is, they're pretty affectionate around the poolroom. It's bumming me out, but I can't quit because it's my team. What do I do?
J. T.; San Antonio, Texas

A. That's really a shame, because you would think they would be more thoughtful than that. Perhaps, if they are nice people, they are really unaware that you still have some feelings for her and that they don't realize it's hurtful to have to watch them. Is she aware that you still have feelings for her, or does she think you are really OK with her and her new beau? Perhaps they assume you are over her, and it really doesn't bother you. They might feel bad once you explain that while you accept their situation, it's hard for you to watch. So if they don't mind, could they pay a bit more attention not to be so affectionate around you? They may be happy to do so. If they know it bothers you and they don't care, then you should ask them to leave your team, explaining that, although they are entitle to a relationship, you just can't get used to it. If they won't leave, then you have to make a decision on whether or not you can get used to it or get out. Sorry, but it's really the only option.