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By Jeanette Lee
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June: Poolroom Loyalty
June 2008
Q. One of my best friends runs a poolhall, and I've played there for years. A new poolroom opened up recently near my house, and, frankly, it's a much better room. I've been playing there a lot, and now my friend won't speak to me. What do I do?
J.D.; Los Angeles, Calif.

A. You have a real problem. My first instinct is to tell your friend to grow up; you should play wherever you want. But let's look a bit deeper. Putting myself in your friend's shoes: I heard that a new room opened up across town, and it's nicer than mine. Then I find out that my friend is playing at my competitor's room. I would feel stabbed in the back. I'm assuming that my best friend hasn't talked to me to provide some perspective, so I just feel betrayed. If this is my best friend, I would have expected him to support my room out of friendship. I think you should talk to him. Gain his understanding and tell him that sometimes it's really convenient not to have to drive far. A close friendship is far more important than a "much better room." Or maybe his friendship doesn't mean that much to you after all? I think he's extreme for not talking to you, but I do get his point of view. If friendships were not involved, you should get to play wherever you feel like playing, but loyalty means a lot sometimes, and clearly, it means a lot to your friend. Be a friend or lose a friend.