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By Jeanette Lee
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June: Poolroom Loyalty
June 2008
Q. One of my best friends runs a poolhall, and Iíve played there for years. A new poolroom opened up recently near my house, and, frankly, itís a much better room. Iíve been playing there a lot, and now my friend wonít speak to me. What do I do?
J.D.; Los Angeles, Calif.

A. You have a real problem. My first instinct is to tell your friend to grow up; you should play wherever you want. But letís look a bit deeper. Putting myself in your friendís shoes: I heard that a new room opened up across town, and itís nicer than mine. Then I find out that my friend is playing at my competitorís room. I would feel stabbed in the back. Iím assuming that my best friend hasnít talked to me to provide some perspective, so I just feel betrayed. If this is my best friend, I would have expected him to support my room out of friendship. I think you should talk to him. Gain his understanding and tell him that sometimes itís really convenient not to have to drive far. A close friendship is far more important than a ďmuch better room.Ē Or maybe his friendship doesnít mean that much to you after all? I think heís extreme for not talking to you, but I do get his point of view. If friendships were not involved, you should get to play wherever you feel like playing, but loyalty means a lot sometimes, and clearly, it means a lot to your friend. Be a friend or lose a friend.