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By Jeanette Lee
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February: Finding "You" Time
February 2010
Q. The girl I've been seeing for a few months thinks I'm ignoring her by spending two or three hours a week playing pool. How can I explain to her that this time is important to me?
Dean H.; La Harpe, Ill.

A. Dean, it will be very difficult to be a loving man if you don't get the opportunities to do the things you love. You are not meant to be an extension of her, but rather, an individual that shares some interests with another person and enjoys time together. If this relationship is going to work out for you, you need to make your stand in a loving way. You need to have other interests other than another person, even if it's a wonderful girl like her. If she doesn't want to share the hobby with you, then she should use that time to do the things she likes to do. If she cares about you - and not just her needs - then she should understand. After all, you'll just come back to her even happier when you get to do the things you love. Honestly, if she just wants you there for her all the time, then this may just be the first warning. Loving another person means spending time with each other, but it also means giving each other some space when they need it