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By Jeanette Lee
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July 2008
Q. The best guy on our league team is a huge jerk. He totally takes advantage of it. He never offers to buy drinks. He shows up late. He insists that we pay his sanctioning fee. The coach lets him get away with it. I say that we demand that he straighten up, or else kick him off - but nobody wants to risk losing him. What do we do?
Luisa A.; Dallas, Texas

A. I always say that you can't help what happens to you, but you can help how you respond to it. You are not going to control him, only yourself. So, what's it going to be? Look inside yourself and decide why you are in this league. If it was to have fun in a competitive manner, find a team that supports that same effort. If it's more to win at all costs, then putting up with a big jerk might be the price you have to pay. If the coach and everyone else thinks he needs to stay, then you are the one not being the "team player." Maybe you need to decide to get on a team that sees things your way. It's a shame that he's acting like that, but it's even sadder that the rest of the team doesn't require that he walk the line. I would find a better team. You deserve to have the fun that leagues are supposed to provide.